PLAY "TWENTY QUESTIONS" WITH YOUR PARTNER

Do you remember the game “Twenty Questions?” You could ask twenty questions to identify what animal, vegetable or mineral the other person was thinking about. Here’s a variation for your next dinner date to find out a little more about your partner and vice versa. The following questions will help you go a little deeper than discussing work, kids, vacations, or sports. These are the kinds of questions couples often ask each other in the early stage of a relationship. But as time hurtles forward, these great questions get neglected and then abandoned. For an interesting and stimulating conversation, try these questions again to discover or rediscover who your partner is. Print them out and bring them to dinner. The one quality to keep in mind is to treat the responses with respect. Please don’t argue or negatively judge any of the responses. Be like a compassionate reporter who is writing an interesting story.

1. If you could change only one thing in your life, what would that be and why?

2. In a regular day, what do you find yourself thinking about the most?

3. On your drive to/from work, what consumes your mind, the majority of the time?

4. What things in your life bring you the greatest pleasure?

5. What do you feel is your greatest accomplishment in your life? Did other people help to make that happen?

6. In what settings are you the happiest/eager/most comfortable/saddest/unsure/afraid?

7. What things do you look forward to each day?

8. What things do you look forward to in your life?

9. If you had three wishes that would come true, what would they be?

10. What other things would you want to change now, and why?

11. What major regret do you have so far in your life? Is it too late to change it?

12. When you reach old age, what do you think you would wish you had done? (that you haven’t attempted so far)

13. Is there a belief or attitude that seems to interfere with creating or pursuing a big dream?

14. What are a couple of things that you appreciate about our relationship and why are these things significant for you?

15. Who was your best friend in primary school – and why?

16. Who was your best friend in high school – and why?

17. Of all the people you have known, read about, or fantasized about, who is your biggest hero – and why?

18. Of all the people you have known, read about, or fantasized about, who is your biggest villain – and why?

19. If you had enough money and never had to work again in order to survive, what would you spend your life on? Why?

20. What do you still need to do or be in order not to write ‘if only...’ on your gravestone?